tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4689546162945514236.post8288868794941670520..comments2023-11-03T20:50:13.206-04:00Comments on Charles Hawkins: AnalogyCharles Hawkinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10741773124719033768noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4689546162945514236.post-60088787121349957002010-02-03T11:35:44.022-05:002010-02-03T11:35:44.022-05:00Yours is a great story about "guilt givers.&q...Yours is a great story about "guilt givers." It took me a long time to realize how much power an otherwise insignificant person can yield if they but start hurling guilt whenever the mood strikes. It helps if they are also perfectionists.<br /><br />By definition, the people around such individuals can rarely please them--that would rob them of their "power." You can dance like a marionette on a string which is what they want never resolving the basic problem. You can blow your stack, draw your line in the sand, wave your arms and curse, possible scaring such an individual away. Ronald Reagan's "shucks" or the current generation's "whatever" defuses an issue that you don't intend to yield ground on, maybe.<br /><br />Dealing with such individuals with grace and good humor and without judging them harshly requires more EQ than I think I have many days. I'm always amazed at people who don't lose ground and don't lose control when it gets tough like your story describes. A rare gift.Crutchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553955189600252363noreply@blogger.com